I wouldn't say Mark was Arizona's best friend - If you mean she is grieving Nick then yes maybe. And that, not PTSD, is what we're witnessing. Many couples adapt to these changes and thrive-becoming stronger in the process, but separation and even divorce, are also very common. Because, like it or not, the amputee has changed on the most fundamental of levels. Even the most loving and committed of couples can be separated emotionally and psychologically after an amputation. Rather than engage her wife she’s regularly made demands of her, and because Arizona then bends, Callie’s assumed that healthy change has occurred, when really Arizona is still bottling up all that grief and Callie is still sticking her head in the sand. Her grief originally manifested in irritability and anger and tears and desperation and she’s failed to cope, instead choosing to put on a mask and pretend she's all fixed while ignoring the fact that, fundamentally, she has changed.Ĭallie has failed to cope to. Grief and depression are very natural and expected responses to a traumatic loss of limb. The life she dreamed of for herself disappeared the day Mark slipped into a coma and Arizona lost her leg.Īrizona is grieving for her best friend (she liked Mark too!), and critically, she’s grieving for the leg and life she’s lost. What is going on with Calzona is a couple failing to reconnect after a catastrophic moment in their relationship and failing to deal with the grief they’re suffering.Ĭallie is grieving for her best friend and she’s grieving for the life she’s lost. Moreover not everyone who experiences a catastrophic event gets PTSD.Īnd I worry that by glomming onto this PTSD diagnosis because it is a very familiar and comfortable narrative that the Calzona fandom is ignoring a very common side effect of an undesired amputation, grief.Ĭertainly trauma does play a role in what has happened between Callie and Arizona this season, but it is less about what happened in the woods and far more what happened in the hospital the day Arizona went into septic shock and Callie made a brutal decision no person should ever have to make regarding a loved one. PTSD is a genuine affliction and a diagnosis shouldn’t be tossed around lightly. PTSD is characterized by a gross change in personality (accurate) but also, critically, by flashbacks. just saying.Īnd now to my first PicSpam! I have never ever played with graphics before.Can we take a moment to talk about Calzona and the PTSD diagnosis being tossed around.īecause PTSD has been done on the show before and it’s been done very very well (it even won awards!) and folks, what is going on with Calzona is NOT PTSD. They truly have come together to be one of the more awkward and interesting friendships on Grey's Anatomy and I can't wait to see what happens next! He just better not sleep with Callie again or call Arizona nothing. They parent together, care for Callie together and have fun teasing each other. Mark became the brother she lost and Arizona became the kid sister he didn't have. After this point they began to develop a friendship that no longer involved Callie. After the accident and with the super-hurtful words Mark threw at her, she decided to forgive him. but she fought to get Callie back and dealt with her rage towards Mark. He had slept with her Calliope and gotten her pregnant. I love how at the beginning, Arizona could barely tolerate Mark with his staring at her boobs and sexist remarks but, for Callie, she decided to get to know him better to keep the peace.Īfter she returned from Africa, I am sure she was looking for the biggest brick she could find to throw at Mark. It still bothers me to an extent, however the relationship that has developed between Mark and Arizona has really gotten to me. I have to admit, I totally hated the idea of Mark being so involved in the Calzona relationship.
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